Him, her, them, it, can include: the spouse/partner, children, parents, friends, co-workers, jobs, money and a myriad of stuff that exists outside of us. These are the things that some of us live for. I have done it, and in some aspects still do by making decisions, or completing actions based on something that is outside of me. I had to make the connection that I wasn't living for me but was living for people/stuff. Learning to live without stuff, especially in these economic times has become easier and subsequently made living for stuff a waste of my short time here. People on the other hand are tougher nuts to crack. Expectations, feelings, emotions and words come into play. Some of us live to see our dreams, hopes and expectations filled, through other people only to experience disappointment when the dream comes up empty. Yet what remains true always is that we can not exercise control over anyone but our selves. Controlling ourselves, living from within ourselves may be one of our biggest challenges. To do so requires, discipline, examination and experimentation before we can achieve a level of comfort and satisfaction with who we are, what is important and what our own purpose in life is.