I had a conversation today in which I said “at 43, quickly approaching 44 years of age I should have it all figured out by now don’t you think?”  The answer that I received was a resounding no.  That answer certainly rocked me. The analytical, mathematical, accountant me is always marking things in time and distance and cost. 43 by my logic seems awfully late to not have it all together, but as I listened further, once I got past the NO I heard that each stage, each age, each moment that passes by all of us have the option and the great opportunity to rethink, revise and rearrange the way we think, the way we act, the way we operate within the universe.

As time moves, as the world continues to turn each of us moves as well.  We are not meant to be static. We are not meant to wake up one day and say ok I’ve done it all, I’ve gotten it all right and now I can coast. There is no coasting in this life.  That’s not to say there are not times in which you maintain and just live because there certainly are. However each day that you have breath, each day that you go out in the world and experience it and the world experiences you, you cannot help but to be different in some way.  What I figured out from the conversation is that my way of thinking – the “by this time I should be this, have that and completed this” is very limiting. My age marker (or any type of marker) doesn’t allow me to honor the experiences that I have had, that have shaped me because the focus is on what “I have not…”  Thinking in this way is also limiting to the future, in this sense that I may miss some events, some people, some experiences because I am focusing on what “I have not.”