Because we love we sometimes feel as though we have an obligation to put up with stuff and to a certain extent we do. If your partner, child, or other loved one has had a bad day and they come home and unload on you, you certainly want to be that shoulder to lean on. Ideally, once the venting is complete, you and said love one can go on with the rest of your evening and maybe even enjoy it together. Sometimes that’s not the case and you know that it is not the case when the unload/vent time happens on a DAILY or even more frequent basis.  The more frequent it becomes is an indication that is not event and circumstances alone that are bothering your loved one, but that there is now some sort of eternal struggle.  When the eternal struggle makes an appearance, you become the recipient of that struggle, of that negative energy on every occasion that the venting comes.

I’ve been on both sides i.e. I have allowed circumstance and problems get the best of me by internalizing them and then unloading them on someone I love repeatedly. I tried to release that energy but couldn’t because it wasn’t the circumstance it was the internalization, it became a part of my energy and efforts to shake it off on the other person, were futile. As a recipient of negative energy, I’ve offered ears, shoulders, advice and all manner of comfort to the giver to help them shake it off, to no avail. Regardless of the side you are on, that negative energy can become all consuming and once it goes there it is exhausting.

What do you do about it?  How about using the Dog Whisperer technique. Trainer/psychologist/all around dope guy, Cesar Milan talks about setting rules, boundaries and limitations for out of control/unruly dogs. The technique is simple and really can be applied to anything. In this case we apply it to negative energy.  The rule: acknowledge the negative energy when you see/feel/hear it.  The boundary: keep it external, do not it allow it to become a part of your spirit/energy/vibe. The limitation: time, internally set a time for how long you allow yourself to experience that energy before you shove it to the exit door.

Are you facing some negative energy? If so put on the hat of the Dog Whisperer and send that energy to the exits.