Inspired by a recent conversation.

I've heard a friend of mine, frequently over the years tell me that they were on their way to do something for someone.  From simple things like sitting with them during a storm to more complex things like set up a wireless network in someone's home who is not tech savvy.  Based on a recent conversation that started out with "what are you doing?" I got an answer, once again related to helping someone else.  So I asked does anyone ever help you?  The response was a story, as most answer are, stories or parables to illustrate a point (that's how this person speaks, always) but lost in the story on me was where a request for help was made. I asked again to circle back, "help me understand what this has to do with you asking for help." The response in a nutshell was that this person requested help from a group of people in order to help someone else.  Sounded like the formation of a project team to me and I stated such.  I asked have you ever asked for a ride somewhere or for anything?  I got two examples of requests for help -- two over a period of 39 years (the age of my friend).  This was mind boggling to me.  I asked again, why don't you ask for help?  This is what I got.

"Some people may not be available to help.

Some people say they will help but really don't mean it.

I just keep it low key.  I'm a strong person and hold myself accountable.  It's my bed and I have to lay in it."

Another boggle...

Then I ask, "would it be safe to say that you don't ask people for help because you don't trust their motivation for helping you?"  The response "yes for the most part". That's when my mind brought up a picture of a wolf -- The Lone Wolf.

I know a few of them.  They do a lot, for a lot of people.  They do wonderful tremendous things as well as simple beautiful things for others, but they don't ask for anything and always refuse when assistance is offered.  From observation (my own) these lone wolves are social, but really prefer to roll alone.  Gregarious and even witty in public, they are quite cerebral and often times calculating.  People who have any type of relationship with a lone wolf (professional, social or otherwise) have to understand that they will only entertain your presence for so long. They are not rude, but they are short with you when your allotted time is up. 

Why does the Lone Wolf exist? Are they born as such or do they adapt themselves and their lifestyles to become one based on their life experiences?

Do you know any Lone Wolves? Why do you think they are one?  How do you relate to one? Are you one?

Let me know in the comments.

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